How do you really know if it is lust or love. In a life time the average person falls in love at least 4 times. But is it really love? Here are the signs to be aware of before you decide if he is the right one.


Being honest with each other in a relationship is very important and it is also important that you get to know the person properly before you commit yourself. How well do you know him? Is the only talking you do bedroom talk?

Good signs:

  • You talk openly about life issues such as finances, children, things that frighten you, where you want your life to go.
  • You can argue and come to some sort of compromise at the end of it.
  • You are open and honest with each other about your feelings.

Warning signs:

  • You only know his favourite colour, what paper he reads. You are afraid to ask him in depth questions about his life for fear of rejection or what you might find out.
  • You don't discuss how you are feeling and often end up resenting each other.
  • Neither of you is willing to forgive one another.


A long lasting relationship or marriage can't survive without love. So is it love or are you just kidding yourself?

Good signs:

  • In a crisis you stand by each other no matter what the result.
  • You make sacrifices to make the other person happy.
  • You are truthful and honest and don't keep secrets from one another.
  • You are emotionally, physically, and mentally compatible.
  • You are friends as well as lovers.

Warning signs:

  • When the going gets tough, he gets going.
  • He has an eye for the ladies and has proved to be untrustworthy.
  • He lies to you about where he has been and only confesses when you find out the truth.
  • There is little physical affection, laughter, or communication between the two of you.
  • He has been unfaithful on numerous occasions.


A relationship is about friendship, respect, and acceptance of one another. When this is lacking, trust and respect is replaced by suspicion which can turn to hatred.

Good signs:

  • You are aware of your partner's faults and are able to accept some imperfections.
  • You support and encourage each other's individual interests and identity.
  • You take the time to listen and understand the other person's opinions.

Warning signs:

  • You criticize each other in front of others.
  • He will not give you space to indulge in your interests and wants to spend every minute of the day with you.
  • You are constantly struggling to live up to his standards or the person you think he wants you to be.
  • You can't forgive and/or forget each others mistakes.

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